Judgements on Kindness

So the other night I was serving a couple and their 4 or 5 children (there were a lot, I don't remember exactly). A Booth next to them was a few who dined and celebrated a birthday. They each celebrated with AN alcoholic beverage of choice and a chocolate cake. The booth of people could not finish half of their cake and so they gave it to the booth with the 5 or so children. When I walked to my table (the one with the children) to offer appetizers I saw the half cake sitting on the table. "Oh we are having cake before dinner, how awesome," I said. A lady from the birthday booth said, "yes those children deserve it they are being really good." After I had finished serving my table dinner, I inquired more details about the cake. "So they just gave you the rest of their cake?" The husband of the table said, Yes I think there were a little sloshed know what I mean? I pondered this thought and I asked the server of the birthday table how many drinks the table had. The server said they each had one.

The other day in my ethics class my teacher led us through a discussion about famous people and the sensational news that we often report on about them. He did a couple of polls and basically caught us in the mindset that every famous person has probably done something scandalous, but there just hasn't been a news story discovered yet. How many of hundreds of people exists in the public with lives so dissimilar as ours. I don't have sensational news in my life, nor do my friends as far as I know.

There is this guy I know. One of the most genuine and polite people I know, and I say truly- the most. Shares his genuineness always and equally to all, and a girl has to tell the world he wants in her pants. Is this too cliche for a true gentleman to actually exist anymore?

A guy sat next to me on the light rail and started to chat. Yea he was missing some teeth and could tell was possibly having it a little rough. He told me about his kids and we talked about his job and the recession. Talked about where and what we want to be someday. Talked about school and when he was young. Talked about life's mistakes. Talked about Arizona and the weather and spring training. He got off and wished me the best of luck with my future and a great day. Didn't ask me for a dime or my number. How many would have given him the time of day without thinking he would have? I am guilty....

I don't understand how we have evolved in such judgment. Why couldn't that table just honestly wanted to share their birthday cake with the children? There really had to be judgment about their sincerity? And being in the public eye means you are automatically doing something scandalous? Can a gentleman be a gentleman without being judged of his intentions anymore? Can a not so classy guy have a conversation with a fellow light rail rider without being considered a bum? Why do we judge the integrity about people so quickly? And you read this and say yea that's messed up but I am sure you do it all the time as well. Seemed to be a sort of theme of the week for me. How often do you smile back at the person walking by on the street? How often you hold that door for someone walking behind you, or for a lady/elderly walking towards you? Or the guys that simply says hello to you while you walk by. Makes you uncomfortable doesn't it? What sort of people have we come to where we actually get uncomfortable and judge people in their kindness ?